Making the move to a first date can feel like a double-edged sword. You’re excited about the possibilities, but still, this is a person you don’t know. How do you make such a nerve-wracking process comfortable for both of you? There are a number of do’s and don’ts, but one of the biggest pieces to help foster comfortability and connection is your location.
It used to be that first dates were about making a big impression with flowers, drinks, and a fancy restaurant. Today, flowers are best reserved for further along in the relationship and fancy restaurants can be a buzz kill. It usually doesn’t take long to get a feel for each other and know whether the possibility of connection exists. If you don’t feel it, a long dinner at a fancy restaurant can end up being a bit torturous.... more
There are a lot of things to consider when planning your first date. But you don’t want to over think things so much that you forget what’s most important: meeting someone new and having a good time while you do it. Our guide to setting up your first date is designed to help you do just that while eliminating the stress of planning.
Begin at the Beginning
When you get excited about someone it’s easy to want to jump right in. If that’s you, that’s great. There’s nothing wrong with a little excitement in life.... more
1. Find what you have in common.
2. Start a conversation about it.
That’s it. You can think of it exactly like introducing two mutual friends to each other for the first time. You search in your mind for what they might be interested in in each other and then take it from there – asking each other questions to get the conversation going.
If there was a third rule, it would be to relax. ... more
Hope I’m your first Spain success. I’m a bit of a Shirley Valentine – that dates me doesn’t it. Came to Spain on a ‘break’ meaning a break from my marriage, for a couple of months and stayed a couple of years and more now.
Things weren’t going well back home and after lots of rows and hard words my hubby agreed it was better to take time out for awhile. I work in the travel business so it was dead easy to get a summer job on the Costa, he stayed back home, working.
Spain was a dream for me.... more
So why do things go wrong when we so want them to go right?
The main problems come from within oneself. That’s sometimes hard to accept, but once you do accept it, it gives you more control. Feeling helpless and at the mercy of someone else is just one of the awful aspects of breaking up.
Try to step back and assess your actions from someone else’s stand point. Ask yourself questions. Was this the right person for me? Seriously answer that question. Lonely people are vulnerable, sometimes we find someone and pour all of our love, devotion, kindness, warmth onto to the object of our love. And I mean object, rather than person.
A close friend, Frieda (not her real name) fell for an amazing guy.... more
Some people just breeze onto the site, put up a few pics, connect with their chosen one and 'bang' they're off, hand in hand into the sunset. But it isn't always that easy! It was 4 very long years before I got together with my partner for life and many of us know what it's like being alone for a long time.
First thing to realise is that it's not really dating, it's communication we need to think about. The dates come once you've opened up and got connected.
Here's 10 simple steps to make connecting easier.
1. Photos are the key... more
It’s a great thrill to set off to a new life abroad and all the more fun when shared.
For those who find themselves single, finding someone to share their lives with in their corner of the world is no longer a big challenge. Online dating is now firmly established and new companies are opening up to look after the expat market. I am the founder of one of them.
After 10 years living in France, my dear husband developed lung cancer and died fairly quickly. It left me in shock and with a very uncertain future. My French was ok but not up to dealing with the bureaucracy involved in the aftermath of a death.
Officials couldn’t have been kinder and they helped all they could, my family and friends rallied round and I made the painful transition to widowhood with their support. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and it took a couple of years to stabilise.... more
I joined a couple of years back. I met a lot of new people and one special one.
When I first joined up I was only looking to meet people -
well ladies ....anyway for a bit of company and a laugh.
I moved to France in 2013 and started off with a van moving stuff up and down the country for anybody who asked. As I was travelling around I used to drop by and meet ladies from off the site.... more
I joined the dating site ages ago. Quite a few men contacted me but they didn't seem right for one reason or another and I let it drift for a while.
Just after the new year, I got an email from one of the men who had messaged me before. I was a bit low so I took a bit more notice of it. His name was Mike, he was coming near my area and asked if I fancied meeting for coffee or lunch or something. Anyway, I thought why not and said ok. It cheered me up and before he came we got chatting online quite a bit. We had a good laugh together, ... more